Staying Present During The Tough Times
Do you ever find yourself feeling so overwhelmed with life that you don’t know what to do? This is normal and happens to all of us at one point or another.
The trick is knowing how to maneuver through these times. What do we do with ourselves? How do we come back to center?
I recently went through a time, and I realized I wanted to share it with you so that you would have some tools and be reassured that we all struggle from time to time.
Audio Transcription:
Hello, and welcome to my musings. My goal as a spiritual empowerment coach is to always be real and authentic with you and that is what I’m here to share with you today.
A few weeks ago I was really struggling with a perceived situation in my life. I say perceived because it was what it was, and I was really getting invested in the story I was telling myself about it. Now true, I could really find validation in the story I was telling, and friends could certainly get on the bus with me to support me (and I am so grateful for my friends), but……getting stuck in my head and the story wasn’t helpful.
So, here are my thoughts….
There was a situation going on in my life…..
I found it upsetting and really got tied up in the details….
This is very normal and in fact what most of us humans do on a daily basis….
And….I noticed that every time I went back to the story and gave it some thought…..that I felt really sad and angry again…
And since this story I was wrapped up in felt really big to me I held on to it for a time, like a couple of weeks solid!
So, what did I do? (and do and do and do……)
I practiced what I preach….
I noticed when I was in the story, what I was telling myself was that this happened and then they did this and then I felt that and they were so wrong and I am so right, etc etc etc…
And when I noticed I was there I brought myself back to my body……I took some deep breaths….I noticed my surroundings….I came back to the present and found relief….
And when I became aware that I was judging myself for being a coach and feeling so horrible…..I took a deep breath…I came back to my body….back to the present and found relief….
Now as I mentioned before…..this was a process that went on for a bit….I really think it triggered so much more than the situation I was experiencing….I cried a lot of tears and felt a lot of anger…..
So again…..I practiced what I preach….I can’t tell you how many times I had to come back into my body and release the story…..
One day in particular I had brought myself out for a walk.
Nature always feels soothing to me…..and on this walk I went back to the story! Argh…..and I was struggling…..
So, I became very conscious of my surroundings and at one point I developed a mantra of sorts…I heard and felt my feet on the ground….I looked at the leaves on the trees…..I looked up at the trees and the sun shining down through them…..
So as I walked I repeated to myself…..feet….leaves….trees….sun…. feet….leaves….trees….sun…. feet….leaves….trees….sun….
It took me a bit, but I was able to come back to my body…..to surrender the judgements…..to let the feelings move through and to really feel grounded again.
I’m sharing this story and process with you because I know I’m not alone. I coach about this stuff on a daily basis AND I’m a human being, just like the rest of you…
We all get caught up in things going on around us…..,my formula is to feel the feelings, without judgement and to come back to the present moment, to surrender and remember that resistance causes suffering…..And to let go of the story.
On a daily basis, this isn’t too awfully challenging, but every once in a while life brings us something that we need to feel our way through to release….
I knew in the midst of it that this was a big one and something I needed to go through. I even had the presence to know that once I let it move through me that I would feel lighter and that is exactly what happened.
So again, I share this because I know I’m not alone and I always want you to know that you are not alone….we are spiritual beings having a human experience….and there are ways to relate to this and to integrate what we know to help us along the way.
Please know that I am always here for you. If you want support with anything like this, just give me a shout.
And remember that true peace is always just one breath away.
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